I am in the Atlanta airport waiting for my plane to board. I have just dashed through the airport, wanting to make it to my flight from the international terminal where I had had an uneventful run through immigration and customs. My daughter and I have come off of a 14 hour flight, and we have just about 3 more hours to go until we reach Texas. I give my daughter a plastic baggie filled with chick-peas to chomp on while we are waiting. I have also just purchased a cinnamon bun from Cinnabon, some bottled water, and a carton of milk. My daughter decides to throw all of the chickpeas on the floor at the gate waiting area. I scoop them up in my hand and look around for a trash can in the vicinity. No such luck. For some reason, there is not a trash can near to the gate. I don’t want to have to pick up all of our stuff, the diaper bag, the stroller, the carry-on and go too far to look for a trashcan. I go up to the man at the gate counter and ask him if he has a waste basket. “My daughter has just thrown her snack all over the floor,” I say. He looks at me, registering my hijab. He silently picks up the trash can and holds it out to me. I think he is handing it to me. I am kind of grossed out by touching a trash can, but I grab hold of it and try to walk away. “NO! NO! NO MA’AM! Don’t do that!” He shouts, grabbing my wrist and squeezing it tightly. I let go of the trash can and toss some chick peas inside. Women in hijab are too much of a security risk to be trusted with a little waste basket, I guess. I am just a petite little pregnant lady. Very dangerous looking, I can only imagine. I ignore his rudeness and say, “My daughter made a mess over there. I just need to throw some chick-peas away.” He looks through me and says sternly, “Don’t worry about it, a janitor will clean it up.” Um, okay. I walk back to where my daughter is stationed in her stroller. I open the Cinnabon bun box and we share a few bites of the giant sweet roll with some sips of water and milk. The plane is boarding now. I scoop up my things and roll my daughter towards the gate, sheepishly leaving the chickpeas, half eaten Cinnabon bun, milk, and water where we were sitting. I feel really embarrassed about the pile I am leaving. I imagine all of the other passengers are thinking “Dirty Arabian lady,” because of the mound of trash on the floor. I hate these kinds of incidents. I want to look at them and say, “There is no trash can! That man told me to leave my trash on the floor!” I just avoid their eyes. It is always the worst at the aiport, I tell myself. At least no one picked on you in immigration or customs this time. We have to walk down a flight of stairs and walk on pavement outside for a while to reach the plane. Two kindly men offer to help with my carry-on piece and stroller. Thank god not everyone is a freakin’ jackass!
August 18, 2008
Why did he think it was appropriate to grab my wrist?
Posted by luckyfatima under American Muslims, anti-racism, personal[12] Comments
August 18, 2008 at 9:17 am
Asalaamu aleykum ukhti, I feel you! I know exactly how u feel, most of the time I’d like to have a sign around my neck describing different situations: “My husband didn’t make me wear this” “I like black” “I’m swedish” “I’m just as scared as u that the plane is gonna crash/blow up” etc… love / Umm Shaheed Valentina
August 18, 2008 at 1:18 pm
Sorry you had to go through that. I was thinking about the trash can thing. This was after security?
I know in Ireland, especially the north, they really control where trashcans are sometimes because bombs can easily be left in them.
I had my military/DoD ID until 2005 and my wife used to like traveling with me when I used that. She’d let me check us in and they seemed to ignored the funny sounding “Muzlim” name when it was accompanied by a “regular American” name and a US military ID.
August 18, 2008 at 5:09 pm
Safer = dirtier.
August 18, 2008 at 7:18 pm
Salam! I”m sorry to hear about your experience!
I think the point you brought up about him grabbing your wrist is an extremely interesting one: if he’s afraid of you, why would he grab your wrist? Perhaps he’s not afraid, but the stereotype of the foreign veiled woman is so pervasive that, despite the fact that he HEARD you speak English, he still think that you don’t understand and that he has to SHOW you.
Rolling my eyes at either one.
August 18, 2008 at 11:12 pm
Either way, this is America, he is not allowed to touch you like that. Did you get his name? He needs to be reported.
Also, it probably wasn’t the scarf, they are rude, overbearing and obnoxious to blonde, hazel, freckled Christian girls too
August 19, 2008 at 4:32 am
Asalaamu Alaikum,
Missed you! And, what they said. I DEPLORE the lack of garbage cans in public places. Airport is the worst, you can’t walk around until you find one, people stay staring at a muhejebah. And the fact that you’re pregnant with a young child MUST mean you’re oppressed.
Sympathizing. InshaAlah the rest of your journey was filled with helpful people- or lots of opportunity for Dua’a. You were traveling, after all- see? That guy was just helping you get closer to your Lord! Yeah. That’s it.
peace
TwennyTwo
August 19, 2008 at 4:53 am
I hate airports. And he shouldn’t have touched you.
August 19, 2008 at 6:39 am
I think that the grabbing your wrist part was a reflex, not a thought through action. And maybe he just doesn’t like pregnant mothers with young children? Thinking of them as a nuisance?
August 19, 2008 at 7:36 pm
Oh my the grabbing of the wrist would have annoyed me. But perhaps Fatmeh had a point about the reflex. I hope you glared daggers at him and said, I wish you hadnt touched me!
However the trash can thing is a totally routine security thing. They wouldnt have allowed you to be alone with the thing as in… walk away with it.
August 20, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Oh what an awful experience!!
On the bright side… good to see you back!!
August 22, 2008 at 3:53 am
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August 29, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Didn’t they have those *golf cars* to help you *move* around??? This is just so bad. I once got so mad at a stewardess because she simply ignored us while passing some snacks to everyone except us. My little girl kept on asking for some but I guess we were *invisible*. I made sure(hopefully) that she wouldn’t treat any other *moslem woman* like that!